8 Tips on How to Improve Emotional Intelligence — Divine You

be in charge of your destiny by gaining control over your emotions, you must develop and harness your emotional intelligence, which enables you to be aware of your emotions and regulate those feelings.

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Why do you need to improve your emotional intelligence? Perhaps it’s because you want to be entirely in charge of your destiny. Since only our ideas, actions, and emotions are really within our control, it’s important to remember that.

Our sentiments have the most significant influence on our decisions and actions. For example, 80% or more of our choices and behaviors are based on our moods and emotions, according to research. On the other hand, our emotions are the most difficult for us to regulate since we have the least direct control over them.

To gain control over your emotions, you must develop and harness your emotional intelligence, which enables you to be aware of your emotions and regulate those feelings.

Habits To Develop Emotional Intelligence

Following the daily routines mentioned in this article can help you build emotional intelligence and have more control over your life.

1. Identify what you are feeling

The first step to emotional intelligence is self-awareness. Ask yourself what you feel. Mindfulness is a proven approach to getting perspective on your feelings and regulating negative and positives emotions. Being aware of your sentiments allows you to pay greater attention to how you speak to yourself and others.

Conscious use of language fosters empathy for others, which deepens existing connections and fosters new ones. Your emotional understanding improves as you get more robust. You can learn from misfortune and bounce back rather than be overwhelmed by it.

2. Delay displaying emotions

Have you ever behaved rashly in a stressful situation and wished you could have a do-over? How about regretting a hasty remark? Whether these spontaneous behaviors are infrequent or frequent, controlling your emotions has many benefits.

But first, let’s speak about our two thinking systems: automatic and purposeful. The automatic system comes into play when you make quick decisions or when you make quick verbal responses. Purposeful thinking helps you solve more difficult problems and allows you to carefully weigh options when a tough choice has to be made.

Because our purposeful system is sluggish, it takes time to engage and think about possible autopilot mistakes. To overcome this, make a regular practice of counting to 10 before acting on emotional impulses. This will activate your purposeful system and handle your sensations before expressing them.

Understanding these two systems and waiting before responding can help you regulate your emotions.

3. Acknowledge and appreciate your emotions

Emotional intelligence does not entail that you must reject your feelings. On the contrary, emotions always have the upper hand. They are there to assist you, so be forthright with them. Understanding and validating other people’s emotions is crucial for growing empathy and learning how to affirm one’s own.

Curiosity helps you take a step back from your current emotional trajectory and solve whatever is causing you distress. When you are open to your emotions, you may better understand yourself (and others).

4. Journaling

Regular journaling helps increase emotional intelligence. In addition, journaling encourages creativity and self-awareness. According to research, journal prompts or basic guiding questions may also help stimulate contemplation.

While there are no set rules for journaling, develop a routine and a method. Create a morning or evening writing routine that includes three emotional intelligence habits:

● Write down your present feelings in a journal.

● Write down what you’ve discovered about yourself today.

● Write your objectives for growing emotional intelligence, particularly the ability to detect and manage emotions.

Remember, the most important thing is to get started and keep going. So keep things simple by committing to a single writing approach (longhand, typing, voice recording, or a journaling program) and following it through.

As you begin to implement the principles outlined below, review your previous entries. It will also assist you in evaluating your previous failures and successes.

5. Develop a deep belief in your system

Unstoppable confidence comes from believing that no matter what occurs, you can conquer anything. Think about a moment when you believed in your ability to accomplish a goal and you got it done. Then, do it again if you already did it. You can confidently cross unfamiliar terrain by remembering past accomplishments.

Rehearse how you’d want to manage challenging emotions in the future. Use your past triumphs to boost your emotional intelligence. Preparation builds confidence for future obstacles.

Originally published at https://divineyouwellness.com on May 10, 2022.

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An experienced Life Coach and writer for lifestyle — wellness industry. I write content on personal, financial, and generational wholeness tips for my audience.

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Ellice. W

Ellice. W

An experienced Life Coach and writer for lifestyle — wellness industry. I write content on personal, financial, and generational wholeness tips for my audience.

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