7 Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Affecting your Mental Health — Divine You

Unknowingly we become victims of unhealthy boundaries. Mentally we suffer trying to live up to others’ expectations but we still try to please others. Identify those behaviors with these 7 signs. Click the link to know more.

Unhealthy Boundaries
Image Source: Divine You Wellness

It is essential to have personal boundaries for a healthy, meaningful, and happy life. Avoiding Unhealthy boundaries involves making good choices, staying away from danger, and remaining aligned with your personal mission, goals, and values.

Avoid getting into unhealthy relationships, set personal limits, stay away from unhappy patterns of personality, and false beliefs. It is important to foster respect, understanding, and honesty in relationships, allocate resources and money wisely, and care for your emotional well-being and physical health. Although sometimes we set unhealthy boundaries that might affect our mental health, here are some signs. Take a look.

Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

1. You are not honest when you feel like you are not treated right

Your voice is your power. It is the way you express how you want to be treated. When you go silent instead of speaking up for yourself, you open the door for mistreatment and misuse. Some may think that taking a firm stance will push people away. In some cases this is true.

However, the people who leave are usually the ones who do not respect or agree with the set boundary. Keep in mind that the best people for you are the ones who honor your boundaries. As you empower yourself to speak up, your environment will change for the better.

2. You feel like other people don’t show you respect

Unhealthy boundaries make people act negatively around you and this leads to a feeling of disrespect. Having personal boundaries allows you to recognize this in others too.

3. You feel like you must be obedient

Instead of understanding and meeting your own needs and desires, you often comply with the wishes of others more than your own. Parents may make choices about their schooling or career.

Even in relationships, you may bow to the desires of your partner and your wishes simply do not matter. You may even rely heavily on the words of a mentor or spiritual guide. Look within to determine if the choices you have made for others have improved your quality of life.

4. Accepting things even when you don’t want them

It may be difficult for you to turn down requests, invitations, offers, and gifts. This is an example of unhealthy limitations. Those having trouble turning down things or taking things they do not require, like, or won’t feel resentful or overburdened. It is ok to say no to what you don’t want. Watch how people respond in those situations.

5. You are constantly the victim of the situation

Such people feel vulnerable and others take advantage of them in both subtle and obvious ways. There is always the feeling of blame and overlooking by others whether at work, in social circles, or in the family. For some people, it seems, things always go wrong. Continue reading on unhealthy boundaries by clicking here…

Originally published at https://divineyouwellness.com on January 11, 2022.




An experienced Life Coach and writer for lifestyle — wellness industry. I write content on personal, financial, and generational wholeness tips for my audience.

Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Ellice. W

Ellice. W

An experienced Life Coach and writer for lifestyle — wellness industry. I write content on personal, financial, and generational wholeness tips for my audience.

More from Medium


What social media is doing to your relationships with the world

Make your Peace

A Wish List for 2022